Kristen, this piece is spot on—thank you for naming what so many parents experience but don’t fully understand. That working memory disconnect is so often misread as “not trying,” when it’s really a neurobiological overload. One resource I’ve created that complements your insights is my free guide, “Rewire the Response: 5 Myths Keeping You in Survival Mode.” It helps adults reframe these everyday challenges—like missed instructions and emotional spirals—not as defiance, but as signals from an overwhelmed nervous system that needs co-regulation and different tools. Happy to share it with your audience! https://drdavidapalmer.com/freeguide
Kristen, this piece is spot on—thank you for naming what so many parents experience but don’t fully understand. That working memory disconnect is so often misread as “not trying,” when it’s really a neurobiological overload. One resource I’ve created that complements your insights is my free guide, “Rewire the Response: 5 Myths Keeping You in Survival Mode.” It helps adults reframe these everyday challenges—like missed instructions and emotional spirals—not as defiance, but as signals from an overwhelmed nervous system that needs co-regulation and different tools. Happy to share it with your audience! https://drdavidapalmer.com/freeguide
This post is super validating as someone who has always "thought out loud".